Do you put yourself first? Enough to take excellent care of you? Do you think you'll be seen as a bad mother/father, wife/husband, daughter/son by putting yourself first?
Putting yourself first will make you a less resentful, more confident, interesting, beautiful, patient, tolerant and fun person to be around. Your bright shining light will give others around you the permission and inspiration to shine more brightly.
Love yourself enough to do whatever it takes to be the best YOU you can be!